Oren Jay Sofer - Nonviolent Communication, Behaviour vs Character, and “Lifting Up The Goodness”

ManTalks Podcast

Connor Beaton

Relationships, Mental Health, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 591 Ratings

🗓️ 26 October 2020

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

How do we understand each other, especially when we disagree? This week, I sat down with one of the leaders in nonviolent communication, or NVC, Oren Jay Sofer. If you're unsure of what nonviolent communication actually is, you'll have a solid grasp after this! For Oren, language runs deep. It’s intimately connected to universal, fundamental human drives, social structures, and even our physicality. We chat about the basic framework of mindful and nonviolent communication, our current “attack based” online culture, and some of Oren’s personal journey and defining moments. Oren was an incredible guest. The word that came up for me was “sincere”. He’s incredibly well-read, intelligent, honest, and his desire to create a world where everyone is respected and in harmony rings clear in everything we spoke about that. Oren Jay Sofer teaches Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and Nonviolent Communication nationally. A member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council, he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, and co-author of Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Adolescents. Oren is co-founder of Mindful Healthcare and the founder of Next Step Dharma, an innovative online program that helps meditators integrate their retreat experiences into daily life. Find him on social media @Orenjaysofer. Connect with Oren Website: www.orenjaysofer.com Latest books: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication Instagram: @orenjaysofer Facebook: facebook.com/orenjaysofer Twitter: twitter.com/orenjaysofer Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The Tech See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to The Man Talk Show.
0:12.0	I'm Conner Beaton.
0:13.9	Insight is the beginning of transformation, not the end.
0:19.0	Meditation is the practice of understanding the dynamics of individual suffering.
0:25.7	To listen entails a fundamental letting go of self-centeredness.
0:30.9	We have to be willing to put down our thoughts, views, and feelings temporarily to truly listen.
0:38.6	So those are the words of Orrin J. Sauffer, who is my guest today.
0:43.4	Oren is a mindfulness and nonviolent communication teacher.
0:46.6	He teaches Buddhist meditation, mindfulness and nonviolent communication nationally.
0:51.9	He's a member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council,
0:54.7	and he holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is the author of
1:00.8	Say What You Mean, a Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, and the co-author of Teaching
1:07.9	Mindfulness to Empower Adolescence. Orrin is the co-founder of Mindful Healthcare
1:13.9	and the founder of Next Step Dharma, an innovative online program that helps meditators integrate
1:20.9	their retreat experiences into their daily life. So Orrin and I are going to talk about a few things. We really mostly focus on
1:30.0	what nonviolent communication is, how to deploy it, how to use it, how it can show up in our
1:35.6	current everyday lives, online, offline, in relationships, in our partnerships with our
1:43.5	coworkers and our colleagues and our friends.
1:46.3	So this is a really interesting conversation because I haven't gone down this path before.
1:50.3	So this is a good opportunity to learn about what nonviolent communication is and how we can
1:55.4	practice it on a daily basis to better understand the people around us.
2:00.4	I like to think nonviolent communication is really a modality of communicating through deeper
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