Hi, this is Jay Parker with this week's Quickey. The other day I was looking at which of my blog

posts had gotten the most comments. Among the top ones was, what does he mean by oral sex?

It may not be what you think. And numerous spouses in the comments agreed with my take,

which is that when you hear oral sex

for him or the slang blowjob, we mostly think of a woman's mouth enveloping the penis,

then the man thrusting in and out to reach an apex of pleasure, but a lot of oral sex just

isn't that. Oral sex only means one or both of you are using your mouth to stimulate your partner's

genitalia. If you're nervous about putting his penis inside your mouth, and I get why some wives are,

you can explore other options like kissing the head or the shaft of his penis, licking the head

or shaft of his penis, sucking the head of his penis, kissing his testicles, though when dealing with

testicles, be especially gentle.

While down there, you can also vary what your mouth does, from pecks to longer kisses to light

sucking and more.

You can also use your tongue to flick, lick, twirl, pump, etc.

You can add your hand to the experience to give your mouth help or a break and you don't

have to use your mouth on him all the way to climax ask your husband what he might like

and if you don't want to do something he suggests consider another form of oral play

you're willing to try if you find a way to do oral sex that works for you you might

discover you receive pleasure from using your mouth to give

him pleasure. In short, you don't have to swallow him or his stuff to have oral sex. If you want to try

it, you can start with like kisses and progress from there. That's it for this week's sex chat cookie. You know,