I often talk about kind of these not so great feelings as the kind of dashboard on your car

where like your tire light, your engine light comes on. And is your engine light coming on bad?

You know, it's just information, but it's kind of a pain in the butt. There's something you have to do at that point. You've got to take the car in. But if you

don't take the car in, if you don't listen to that information, then, you know, your car's going to die

on the highway. And I like this analogy for a couple of reasons. One also tells us something about what we need to do with negative emotions, which is like,

you don't necessarily have to deal with it immediately.

Like if the engine light goes on, you'd have to like immediately pull off the next exit of the

highway, but you got to schedule some time to kind of work on it.

I just want my kid to be happy.

Why isn't my kid happier? How do I make sure my kid becomes a happy adult?

The topic of happiness is honestly one of my favorite topics to talk about, mostly because I think there's a big difference between kind of optimizing for happiness in the moment and optimizing for happiness long term. I know that's confusing, right? If we make our kids happy today, won't they become

happy adults? Well, I have some thoughts on this, but I wanted to bring in one of the most

known experts on the topic of happiness.

Today on the podcast, I have the incredible, lovely, brilliant, warm, thoughtful Dr. Lori Santos.

She's a Yale professor.

She's the host of the Happiness Lab podcast, and she helps people improve their well-being

with the science of happiness.

By the end of today's episode, you're going to get a couple things.

You're going to rethink what happiness is.

You're going to also have a new perspective on those moments when you want to intervene and just

make something a little easier for your kid and you're going to actually have an arc or kind of

a road, a pathway for how to actually make sure our kids feel confident, confident, and happy.

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