Welcome to a Black Girl Burnout podcast, Kelly here.

And today I want to talk about how to opt out of smallness, playing it small, being small, shrinking.

Earlier in the week, I talked about the enemies of expansion and living this big, bold,

beautiful life full of possibilities.

And I told you that for me, I thought the enemies were being small, playing small,

acting small, shrinking yourself.

And then I thought the other thing is holding on to

what doesn't serve you is an enemy of living an expansive life. I talked a little bit about

how generosity has really been key for me, being able to live the life of my dreams and to feel

really positive about the life that I'm living.

Generosity has been, honestly, the foundational quality that has saved me in that regard.

And today I want to talk about how to opt out of playing it's so small, opt out of shrinking,

to talk about how to avoid this kind of a life in two different ways.

One, by hiding who you are and two, by keeping your world really small.

So one of the ways I want to start by talking about this is to acknowledge that there are a lot of

ways that the world makes us feel small and act small,

that most people in my experience who behave in the way that they behave,

even when those behaviors are personally hurtful to me,

I can understand the systems that are set up in place that create a dynamic

where somebody begins to feel just insignificant

and feel that the world is anything but filled with possibilities. And when we live in a way

and we see the world that way, it definitely has an impact on how we show up, how we treat other people. So much of what I think conflict is

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