Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast.

Kelly here.

And today we were going to talk about opting out of parenting your parents.

This is something that I talk about often with friends of mine and I think is very much a part

of the Black experience.

We are communal folks.

We care about our mamas and our grandmamas and our granddatties and our grandfathers.

We care about the people in our lives, particularly

our parents.

There is such an attitude of gratitude toward them.

And yet, particularly for black women where we see statistically caregiver burdens are

placed on, many of us women feel compelled to parent our parents. And I want to be

clear. Today, we're going to talk about parenting our parents, not when they're ill or in declining

health. I'm going to do a whole other episode about that at another time. We're going to talk about

parenting our parents through their

dysfunction and our compulsion to do so that we often get sucked into parental drama

that is not healthy, that really keeps us opting into struggle and opting into patterns that are unhealthy.

So we're really going to talk about setting boundaries, really five ways to set boundaries

with our parents so that we can make sure that we are not parenting them.

I cannot tell you how often I have conversations and it's very

much rooted in advising our parents on their dating life, advising our parents on their finances,

advising our parents on just day-to-day life choices, getting into COVID arguments with our parents.

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