Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast, Kelly here, and I'm back to talk about how to opt out of overworking.

If you listened to last episode, you saw me call us all collectively out and in as a

community and our need to rest as black women. But I know some of you probably thought that is a very

lovely heartwarming episode, Kelly. But exactly how am I supposed to do that when my life is

centered around so much that I have to get done? Or maybe you actually tried to put some rest

practices in, but your to-do list kept growing and you just couldn't put it down.

Let's be real. The habit of overworking is a hard one to break, but today is all about

giving you a blueprint on how to stop overworking and to start resting and to do it all

without guilt, without fear, and without sacrificing your

goals. Remember, rest isn't an idea. It's an action. Rest isn't passive. It's particularly

tied into creation and activation. So let's get practical, as I always like to do, and talk about ways that you can

stop overworking. But before we get to that blueprint, I'm talking about, we have to talk

about the why. Why it's so hard for us to let go of the need to overwork. And here's something I want you to

think about and sit with. Overworking isn't just about ambition. It's about conditioning.

So it's not ambition, it's condition.

We are actively being conditioned as black women by some of the following thought patterns.

That we have to be twice as good to get half as much.

That the best version of a black woman is a strong one,

and that we're often praised for being strong, but rarely for being well,

that when we think about slowing down, it's often associated with falling behind.

And here's the point of that, is if you are exhausted all the time, you're not winning.

You're just running on empty.

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