Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast.

Kelly here.

And today I want to talk about how to opt out of lost causes.

And this might be a little bit of a loaded topic.

So I'm going to talk about myself and how I have

let go of lost causes and how I identify what a lost cause is and do in a way that is healthy

and loving and builds community because that is our legacy as black women is to have joy and

abundance, but also have community.

But in order to preserve a healthy, beautiful community, it's really important that we eliminate

situations, causes, and people that are a lost cause. And what I mean by that is my relationship to giving up on lost causes,

to opting out of lost causes has been a journey that's been, I don't know, two decades at this

point. Since I was a little kid, I was a person who just felt like I owed people, my time, my

energy, my caring, and it didn't matter who they were, friends, family, potential partners.

I mean, as a kid, partners, boys in my case, that just didn't deserve it, honestly. And it was the relationship, and it was my growth over the

years that made me better at determining what was quote unquote a lost cause and getting out of it

as soon as possible and just saying, okay, we tried that. It didn't work. Off we go. And so I want to talk about

areas of our life where we can start to detect what lost causes may be hiding out and how

to get them out of your life or get them away from you. And I want to be clear, lost causes

is not meant to be judgmental, although it may sound like it is.

It's not meant to make you feel like there are certain people who don't have value.

All people have value.

All people are worthy of love, but it doesn't have to be your love.

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