Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast. Kelly here. And today I want to talk about love and the myths around love that keep us attracting some less than desirable partners. Today is going to be all

about opting out of, for lack of a better word, clownery and really opting out of those myths

that keep us struggling in our love lives. It's really easy to get caught up in the negativity around

love. There's like there's warring beliefs. There's optimism that I'm going to find a great

person and I'm going to find a good one. And then there's just really cynicism and the belief

that love is going to always be disappointing and that having exchanging stories of clownery

with your friends about the people you've had in the past and how they have not been great

partners, it becomes a normal

part of our discourse. But I want better for myself. I want better for us. And I want us to learn

the ways that we really can opt out of clownery as being our go-to when it comes to our love lives and that we can opt into

healthy, meaningful partnership. But in order to do that, we really have to confront four

key myths about love, about relationships and partnerships that I believe we carry with ourselves.

As black women, we often are in the struggle.

And one of the ways that that is very obvious is in partnership.

So today in this podcast, let's opt out of struggling in our love life. Let's opt out of the clownery,

and let's opt into meaning. So our first myth is the belief that love is blind. How this shows

of relationships is that oftentimes we avoid looking at some pretty glaring

flaws in our partner and in ourselves that lead us to unsatisfied relationships.

We have this kind of agreement and an expectation that like you all, you ignore all of my toxic

because I'm not really

working on myself. And in exchange, I'm willing to ignore all the ways you're not showing up in

the relationship or even as a human being. But love's not about turning a blind eye to the

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