Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast.

Kelly here.

And today I want to continue our week-long discussion of softness and how to embed softness in different areas of your life.

I want to revisit love today.

Now, I've done episodes before about partnership and how to opt out of struggle love.

But I want to revisit it today under this kind of lens and with this theme of opting into

softness and re-examine love.

Looking at our love lives can be difficult, painful, funny. It might make a smile thinking about

past partnerships. We get a whole bunch of feelings that come up with our love life.

And I want us to explore those feelings and think about ways to

change some of our routines and our behaviors so that we are attracting soft love in our lives.

We're going to primarily focus on romantic partnership, but I also am going to talk a little

bit about platonic and familial

love because I do think that those are so important. And I really do feel like the key to having

a happy romantic love life is having a balanced and healthy platonic love life and familial love life with your family and your friends,

that it is a predictor, even in studies, that show that people who have better childhoods

have better love lives. People who have really great friendships have better love lives.

So I want to talk about all three of those, but I particularly want to talk about today how to get rid of this notion that struggle love

is the best kind of love. I know that coming up, I really thought struggle love was the best kind of love.

I really thought having to work for something or more importantly for someone made it all

the sweeter when you got them.

And it wasn't until many years later, and probably now on a daily basis, I'm learning.

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