Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast, and I have another question for you.

What are your rituals?

Today we're going to talk about how to build a routine and how to opt into rituals

specifically around self-care.

I have said this since the beginning, and I'm sure you know this if you're listening to this

podcast, but self-care matters.

It is a foundational set of skills and set of practices that you put in place in your

life that will save you. But it's been so misappropriated and so misused and it has become a buzzword

that people just say, oh, I'm doing self-care.

And self-care has become avoidance.

Self-care has become disconnection.

Self-care has become narcissism and not taking care of self.

And so we want to make sure that our rituals for self-care honor the true meaning of self-care and the true goals of self-care,

which is to do two things. One, to take care of yourself, to nourish and love yourself,

to stabilize and ground so that the second way, so you can care for others,

so you can contribute to community so you can make a difference in the lives of the people

around you. Self-care isn't selfish. It doesn't encourage narcissism. It does the exact opposite. And part of building a

self-care ritual is also building in ways to protect what matters to you and what you value.

The biggest mistake that people make is thinking that they can jump on the latest

trend and somehow they can call it self-care.

And trust me, been there and done that.

For me, my journey to self-care was initially really pretty shallow.

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