Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast. Kelly here.

And today we are going to talk about how to release the sense of urgency in all of our

relationships and how instead to opt into what I'm calling love at the

pace of peace. The truth is that urgency, no matter if it's in dating or around our family dynamics

or around our friendships, when urgency invades those relationships, it causes stress, it causes

pressure. It makes us so exhausted. And I really want to talk about the power of slowing down and how

that can deepen our connections and prevent a type of burnout that exists when we love another person, no matter how that love is

expressed. Unfortunately, we live in a world where the pressure to feel the sense of urgency

and love is never ending. Society really pushes urgency and relationships.

It's like whether it's rushing commitment or forcing compatibility, the need to fix people,

there's an undercurrent of anxiety and urgency around that.

There's also this pressure to make things work quickly that often

leads to burnout or resentment or bad decisions, frankly. When people let urgency invade their

relationships, they don't feel comfortable and they don't feel safe and they certainly don't feel restful.

And so the question to sit with this episode is to really allow yourself to dream.

What would love feel like without urgency?

Now, how does that actually look in a relationship?

So how do we know there's this sense of urgency

happening all around us? Well, let's look at the three categories. So we'll start with dating and

romance. Then we'll talk about maybe our families and family dynamics and then finally friendships.

So how does urgency kind of manifest in these types of relationships?

Well, dating and romance is kind of very easy to tell. It's this attitude and this feeling

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