Welcome to Manager Tools. Today's topic, 101's Our Business Meetings. Here we go. Probably one of the most frequently asked questions we get on one-on-ones is what do I do if one

of my directs doesn't want to have them, right?

We make the mistake of kind of laugh chuckling at this one every time to or I do I know I do right? Yeah now mind you this isn't the question that managers ask who are already doing one-on-ones right if they're doing it right they want to know how to handle the usual

hypothetical situations you know the direct who crossed their arms or won't talk or right

but that's a different answer for a different time yeah how many times think

about this though.

These are two fairly common questions when people are starting out with one-on-one's.

Today's cast is about is for managers who have never done one-on-ones before, right?

And you know, what if my directs don't want to

have them they're creating a hypothetical negative in the future which is a

classic way for people to decide not to do something as well what What I'm doing may not be good, but that thing

has a problem that I know and can identify, that future that you're suggesting has a problem I know

I can identify, and so I don't want to do that because that's a risk I'm aware of and most people aren't aware of the risks there are the risks that are involved and they're already taking right?

But when people say hey what do I do about the direct two cross arms? I mean think about. I mean, how many times have we actually heard from

somebody to conference or a client that somebody actually, in one of their directs,

actually did that for more than say two months have we I mean never I don't know maybe

maybe I have a vague recollection that one person says yeah it took four or five

months and then he finally started talking.

If you think about it, four weeks per month, 16, that's eight hours.

It's only eight hours that you're getting little value from the direct,

but on the other hand, you're getting a lot of

value as a manager. Yeah but that's a different answer for different time for

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