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I'll be bringing you weekly 10 minute episodes to encourage and support your emotional well-being.

Hi everyone, so today I want to reflect on

how we're so often praised for being independent and we recognize it in our children

it's a trait that is often kind of praised culturally as well I guess you sort yourself out be strong

be resourceful and I think often there can also and I know that I can say this for myself, be a fear around burdening people,

wanting not to add any more stress or pressure or ask anything of anyone else. Now I think the reason I want to

reflect on this is because there is another side to the story isn't it and it just really hit me the other day I was

walking in our local town with my two and a half year old toddler and we were walking through a car park and she as she does so

often these days completely refused to go in the buggy so we left the buggy in

the car and I said hold my hand because we're

walking through the car park and she said no I'm going to hold my own hand and she proceeded to kind of walk along in front of me just quite literally holding on to her own hand and it made me laugh because she is so independent but it also it also

made me think about all the times I have resolutely in those moments where someone was offering something,

be it support, a listening ear, help physically, emotionally, mentally, I have said, oh it's okay, I'm fine, don't worry about it.

I can sort it out myself.

I don't want to burden you.

I'm taking this one I've got this and I've refused that kind of metaphorical

hand-holding maybe because I thought I should be able to help, comfort, support or advise myself using what I know and what I have available to me.

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