Hello and welcome to the Therapy Edit Podcast with me Psychotherapist Anna Martha.

I'll be bringing you weekly 10 minute episodes to encourage and

support your emotional well-being.

Hello and welcome to today's episode with the therapy edit.

This episode is one that has been requested

by a few of you and it is about friendship in motherhood,

particularly about feeling guilty for how motherhood impacts our friendships and how perhaps we are not able to be the same kind of friend

or to give the same amount or to be as present in our friendships as we were able to before we became moms.

So I've got five tips on how to address that guilt, which I know I have felt. I have felt that guilt which I know I have felt I have felt that guilt I have felt that shift

those friendships that have meant so much to me as the years have gone by and then I become a mother and things change.

Things change don't they and that can be it can be challenging and it can throw up

that says you know you're not a good friend anymore.

How if you let this friendship slide?

What they're expecting from you you can't do.

And that's what I want to talk about.

So if you feel that guilt, you are not alone. Many people requested this topic. So know that first and foremost. Secondly, we can address that guilt. I want to remind you of the tip that I created to deal with my own guilt because I felt so much of it

that I thought there's got to be a way and it's that act technique you'll have heard me talk about it it's in my books, and it's that way to approach guilt.

When you feel that guilt, let's think of it as being around that friendship that's shifted.

You know, I feel guilty that I'm not able to be a friend I used to be to that person.

That's the address. That's the A that's the identifying what that guilt is.

C is compassion because we always need to poor compassion into guilt so that we don't slip into that

into that shame where we go from all actually this friendship's shifted to I am not good enough. I am a not good enough friend.

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