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Sharing emotions associated with difficult events in life has a natural basis.

We're a social species and we're primed to connect, to survive, our well-being is based on emotion co-regulation and psyches are shaped, right hemispheres are wired by how well emotions are tuned to.

Mirered and soothed by caregivers.

Isolation and our species leads almost invariably to

dysregulation.

If you put well-adjusted adults into solitary confinement, within 72 hours

begin to show the presenting symptoms of psychosis.

Certainly our species under threat generally experiences

impulses that have been labeled as tend and befriend, I think that's the saying,

tend and befriend, which urge us to seek support and care from others.

And these affiliations have clear advantages,

advantages, groups that are far more capable of

warding off predators than lone individuals.

And as Lieberman and Naomi Eisenberg noted in their studies

that the brain is wired to promote pro-social bonds, especially during times of stress.

So we all have within us these natural impulses that when we've

experienced something painful, a difficult event to connect with others, disclose and keep on disclosing and narrating the experience until it feels like the emotional activations are eventually reduced.

Throughout history, there have been many authorities and arguments that have supported talking about negative experiences with others.

It's not a recent historical development to be sure.

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