Stop judging each other with contempt. So if you're going to reconcile, you've got to see this person the way the Lord sees them. I mean, are you married to a Judas or a Peter? Both deny Jesus in a point. If you're seeing your spouse as a Judas, when they're really, the Lord sees them as a Peter, I suggest you kind of back off because Christ himself isn't seeing your spouse the way you are.

Dear young married couple, what if the fight you keep having isn't because one of you is wrong,

but because both of you are right in different shades?

Most couples don't get stuck on the big stuff.

They get stuck on the same three conversations that never seem to end. It could be tone,

timing, money, sex, parenting, in-laws. And after a while, you stop arguing about the topic and you

start arguing about the person. Today's episode is a gift to us because our guest has

genuinely shaped our marriage and the marriages we serve for many,

many years. Dr. Emerson Egrich is the founder of Love and Respect Ministries and the author of

14 books, including Love and Respect, which is sold over 2 million copies.

After decades of counseling and pastoral ministry and then years of biblical and

relational research, he's helped couples all over the world find language for what's happening

under their conflict. And in his latest release, he offers what he calls libel moments, those

simple truths that flip a switch and help you see the same situation in a completely new way.

One of those is what we're going to camp out on today.

Not wrong, just different shades of right.

Because if you can learn to spot the difference between a spouse who is sinful and a spouse who is simply different, you could stop treating preferences like moral failures and start building something that actually

feels like peace. So here we go. On to the interview. Dr. Emerson Egrich, it's so good to have

you on the program. Thank you for being with us today. Well, I appreciate it, Adam and Carissa. Thank you.

Yeah. I'm very excited about this topic and about your listening audience,

and hopefully we can encourage them. Aw, well, we are so grateful and honored that you are pouring

into our audience and us. You have poured into us for two decades now. So we are, we are so

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