Hey, it's Rachel Cook, your modern mentor.

And today's episode is all about what to do when you know you're giving your all at work,

but you're just not feeling the love in return.

How can you ensure that you're being appreciated for all you're doing?

You're doing your thing at work.

You're hitting your goals.

You're making magic. You're keeping the train on the tracks. And nothing. Birds chirping. Where you're wondering is the love. The pat on the back, the feeling of being recognized for your efforts and achievements. Does your company value you? Feeling underappreciated at work can be painful. We spend

roughly a third of our lives working. Shouldn't we all feel good about what we're doing there

all those hours? If you've been feeling like your hard work is going unnoticed and underappreciated,

then let's talk about what you can do to reclaim your value.

First, find your professional love language.

Nearly 30 years ago, relationship counselor and author Gary Chapman published The Five Love Languages.

In this book, Chapman explains that each of us expresses and wants to receive affection in different ways,

and understanding how we choose to receive that affection is critical.

Personally, my love language is acts of service.

This means that when my husband wants to woo me, he knows that dropping off my dry cleaning

or getting my cracked phone screen repaired will mean more to me

than gifts of flowers or candy ever could. These for me are the greatest expressions of love,

but he only knows this because I've told him so. Too much information? Perhaps. But I believe the same

concept applies in the workplace, not in terms of affection, but with

recognition. In order to feel more appreciated, it's important that you understand what your

version of appreciated looks and feels like. So ask yourself this question, when do I feel valued?

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