Not Accepting What Shows Up
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 7 December 2022
⏱️ 42 minutes
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Summary
This week, two callers have set themselves up for experiencing exactly what they don’t want in their relationships. One caller is dating a man who has a son, while she doesn’t ever want children – yet she believes the issue is with her partner. The second caller is considering returning to a toxic relationship because of the pressure from her children and her ex. Iyanla recognizes the issue in both situations – each caller believes they cannot have what they want, which created their predicaments.
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| 0:00.0 | I amla, your host, your guide, a teacher for sound and a soft place to fall for others. |
| 0:09.4 | And I was a miserable failure in my relationships until I love myself enough to be able to |
| 0:17.4 | share my love with other people. |
| 0:19.8 | Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland trimmed in gold with a lovely ornate cap on it and if I |
| 0:49.1 | did I would speak into that bottle. You can have what you want and I would sell it. I'd sell it on |
| 0:58.2 | eBay, I'd sell it on Etsy for five cents. I wouldn't even charge a lot for it, but the beauty of it, this crystal bottle trimmed |
| 1:10.2 | and gold with the ornate cab, |
| 1:13.0 | filled with the statement, the belief, |
| 1:17.5 | the declaration, the affirmation, |
| 1:19.9 | you can have what you want I want to just make it available and hopefully it will |
| 1:27.8 | help people believe it you can have what you want. You don't have to accommodate crazy. You don't have to tolerate bad behavior. You don't have to eliminate your values. You can have what you want. And so very often when we make |
| 1:47.7 | a choice that takes a left turn, we think we've done something wrong from which we will never recover |
| 1:59.9 | and we accept, accommodate, and tolerate crazy. |
| 2:04.8 | You can have what you want. |
| 2:06.6 | And it doesn't matter how many bad choices you make, |
| 2:09.7 | you can have what you want. |
| 2:11.7 | My guess today thinks this is about children and it's really |
| 2:16.4 | not. It's really about believing that you can have what you want and if you don't believe you can have what you |
| 2:26.8 | want the way you will set yourself up to fall flat on your face. |
| 2:36.2 | Good morning, beloved. Welcome to the Our Spot. |
| 2:38.3 | And what is the challenge issue question |
| 2:41.1 | that you have that we can dig into today? |
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