All right, man, welcome back to the man talk show.

Final episode of the year. Excited for this one. It's going to be brief. It's going to be short, but it's going to be direct. So you can probably tell by the title, I do not believe in New Year's resolutions. The data is in. The research has been done. And we can pretty much unequivocally say that for the majority of people, New Year's resolutions are absolute garbage.

You know, this notion of like, new year and new me, a new career, a new life, a new relationship.

None of it works, right? The majority of it doesn't work. And there's been a lot of research

on why it doesn't work. My gut and my experience with New Year's resolutions and having

worked with people and seeing what causes change and what doesn't, is that New Year's resolutions and having worked with people and seeing what causes

change and what doesn't is that New Year's resolutions rely too heavily on hope, on the notion of

hope, right? People set a New Year's resolutions because they hope that some form of change will come,

will arise, right? They hope that they can lose the 20 pounds. They hope that they can start working out frequently. They hope that they can save more money and prioritize their finances.

They hope that their relationship will get better. And the reality is that hope will run out

at some point in your journey of change. Hope will run out at some point. And the real hard part of change and transformation is when you

get into that territory where hope ceases to exist, where you really start to question whether or not

you want this change, whether or not you really want to lose that 20 pounds, whether or not you

really want to save that money, whether or not you really want to learn about 20 pounds, whether or not you really want to save that

money, whether or not you really want to learn about investing or whatever it is that you've said

is your quote unquote New Year's resolution. And we can see this in many different forms of

psychology, in spiritual practices, and even in frameworks like alchemy, where they all sort of

talk about how there's there's

not only merit in going into your own sense of darkness but that darkness is in some ways whether it's

psychological or emotional or spiritual is where the hopeless exists right where hope ceases to

exist where we can't really see why we should

be hopeful anymore. And we also know that, you know, motivation is something that generally comes

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