Hi, this is Janet Landsbury, welcome to Unruffold.

Today I'm going to be responding to a parent of three kids, ages 12, 9, and 3, who's relatively

new to respectful parenting.

It has really resonated with her, but she feels that her older kids have maybe suffered

and are perhaps even damaged by her previous parenting style.

She's wondering if it's too late to make things right with her older children and what she

can do to repair the damage.

Okay, here's the email that I received.

Hi Janet, I just found your podcast.

I clean houses for a living, so I've been listening to your older podcast for hours each day.

Your methods and insights have been truly freeing and a paradigm shift in experience for me.

I shared with my husband and he is now listening as well.

We've both been trying to apply what we're learning.

The problem is we have three kids, ages 12, 9, and 3, and I've raised them almost opposite

of what I've learned from you.

I was raised with a lot of shaming, and despite my best efforts, I seem to have fallen into

that.

I realize now I've been horribly inconsistent, allowed my child's moods and feelings to

run my own, and even made them feel responsible for my own out of control feelings.

There's a gap in ages between my older two and my youngest, and I've done a little better

with her, but still have been struggling.

I know that my middle child, a nine-year-old girl, is really struggling emotionally and

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