Hey friends this is fun therapy and my name is Mike Foster and together we're going to dive into the messy and the brutal but

oh so beautiful parts of our not so perfect stories and we'll do it with a

smile even when it's hard. Friends, these are special coronavirus episodes where I just want to

support you and encourage you and talk about some real issues that I believe all of us are working through.

Today I want to dive into the language of healing and paying attention to our words and how important the

words that we speak to others and the words that we speak to ourselves the way we frame ideas and concepts

about the world that we're living in right now,

how incredibly important that is.

And so I hope this will be helpful to you

in terms of what you're navigating right now because it's a lot.

You know one of my heroes is Mr. Rogers and Mr. Rogers is said,

you know, probably one the most famous quotes that we hear around crises and when things are difficult in the world and Mr. Rogers said this to his

television neighbors he said when I was a boy I would see scary things in the news.

And my mother would say,

look for the helpers.

You'll always find people who are helping.

In part of this episode and part of what I think is incredibly important as we are processing all the changes in our lives is for us to not only acknowledge our own hurt, our own loss,

our own grief.

We've talked about that in the past episodes, but also begin to find moments

of being a helper. And here's why. This is why I think this is really important right now. There's a large and well supported body of research showing that doing good for others actually makes us feel better.

Go figure, right?

Psychologists refer to this boost or this lift or this feeling better as a helper's high.

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