These are my personal opinions. Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

Just in case you need to know this, you do not need to prove yourself to someone who betrayed you.

You do not need to show them that you are a changed person

when they have gone out and betrayed you in some way.

A good example is a married couple.

Husband goes out and cheats,

comes back and says it's your fault that I cheated.

I got a letter really close to that sentiment, almost the exact wording of that sentiment.

Woman's husband went out and cheated and then came back and said, she didn't tell me this,

but this is what it sounds like.

She said in her letter that you're emotionally abusive, so I cheated.

You know, it could be true that that person is emotionally abusive.

Does that justify betrayal?

Does that justify infidelity?

There are actually differing opinions on this that I've heard.

One opinion is if they're abusing me, if they're hurting me,

then I have every right to go out and cheat on them.

If they're being a jerk, I can go cheat.

My personal opinion and professional opinion is that when you're in a relationship

and you've signed a contract, a relationship contract,

and all that means is you committed to each other,

whether you're married or not, you are exclusive and you are committing to each other.

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