Navigating “You Make Me Feel” and “I” Statements To Build Trust, Resilience, and Security - Jayson and Ellen - 398
Relationship Coaching School Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.6 • 981 Ratings
🗓️ 7 June 2022
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
Do you ever feel defensive, blamed, angry, or hurt when someone says, “you make me feel….”? Have you heard of “spiritual cock-blocking?”
This week Ellen and I talk about the potent and simple “I feel” statements and how we impact one another and influence each other’s feelings and experiences by simply co-existing in the same space, both positively and negatively.
Learn how to navigate these difficult conversations by sharing ‘Impact Statements’ (a communication technique that leads with empathy while advocating for your experience) instead of pointing the finger and blaming/shaming someone for making you feel a certain way or using an impact statement if you’re on the receiving end of such a statement. Try to remember that conflict is essential in any healthy relationship because it offers the opportunity to repair, to get to know each other better, to be collaborative, all key elements in building security, resilience and trust.
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| 0:00.0 | Once there's been an impact, it's important that we clear that up or follow that up with repair |
| 0:05.2 | and not just try to defend our intention. |
| 0:08.0 | Because I think that's pretty empty. |
| 0:09.8 | That doesn't make anyone feel better. Hi and welcome back to the relationship school podcast hosted by |
| 0:36.4 | Jason Gatis and Ellen Bader and Ellen Bader today yeah |
| 0:41.1 | hmm thanks thanks for listening folks today. Yeah. Yeah. Thanks. |
| 0:43.0 | Thanks for listening folks. |
| 0:46.0 | Thank you for investing in yourself. |
| 0:49.0 | Thanks for buying my book, by the way. |
| 0:57.4 | Getting to Zero, how to work through conflict in your high stakes relationships. I read it on audible if you want the audio version. |
| 1:06.2 | If you're a voice listener, a lot of you podcast listeners have done that so thanks for that purchase. If you haven't left a review it would mean a lot to me |
| 1:11.0 | if you've got something out of the book to leave a review on Amazon. |
| 1:16.6 | Those reviews do matter. |
| 1:19.6 | I look at reviews all the time on Amazon if I'm there. |
| 1:22.7 | So please help an author out, hook a brother up here. |
| 1:30.8 | If you've got a positive review, that would be awesome. |
| 1:33.0 | And thanks for subscribing. |
| 1:35.0 | Thanks for listening on your phone and on Apple Podcast, Spotify, YouTube, etc. |
| 1:41.0 | Yeah, Ellen and I are really committed to helping you with your relational life. |
| 1:46.7 | It's kind of what we live and breathe over here. Yes. Yeah, today we've got a topic we want to drill down into a little bit. |
| 1:58.0 | You make me feel this way and And that's the topic. |
| 2:04.0 | That's the topic. |
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