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Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Navigating Power Dynamics, Disarming Human Defenses with Ann & Sue: Session 3 of 5 (185)

Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP & Ann Kelley PhD

Social Sciences, Society & Culture, Science, Education, Self-improvement, Relationships

4.71.5K Ratings

🗓️ 13 September 2022

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Summary

Therapy boot camp - session 3 of a series of 5. When you unconsciously deem "power" as what keeps you "safe" in vulnerable situations, reflecting and rewiring on this dynamic can transform your connections. Human defenses are quite necessary to protect our nervous system and sense of self. The goal isn't to eliminate defenses - but to learn how to regulate them, especially in relationships. Defenses can often feel triggered when there is an uneven power dynamic expressed in a relationship and can be influenced by outside factors like gender socialization, culture, or personal history. Shownotes at www.therapistuncensored.com/185, join our exclusive neurnerd community for an ad-free feed plus perks at www.therapistuncensored.com/join

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0:00.0

If I'm in the known, I'm safe. But if I'm in the unknown, whether it's my unknown or my knowledge,

0:06.6

like if I'm exposed, but also, if I have to move out of my position of power,

0:11.9

then I feel a little flaily like that. So it's a real fear-based and you,

0:16.5

which is so intolerable. It's so intolerable. Even to slow people down sometimes in

0:20.2

couples therapy and say, you know, can you express them? That's a good point and you could see

0:24.8

really the anxiety coming up in the chest. Somebody that is saying, I don't actually feel

0:29.4

much anxiety. You said, well, let's do some joining statements as to see how that feels.

0:33.3

You will literally see them almost crawl out of their skin. They might forget, okay,

0:36.2

that's a good point. But to be able to say it and feel it is a real challenge. And your

0:40.6

question is a good one. Like, what is going on? And that's what we want to talk about.

0:44.9

What is going on is really something to feel deeply compassionate about in yourself,

0:51.2

if it's you or in your partner or sibling or friend, if it's them. And that truly is an experience

0:58.8

of almost a young panic to threat that's been disowned.

1:04.2

Welcome to Therapist Uncensored. Building on decades of professional experience,

1:08.4

this podcast tackles neurobiology, modern attachment, and more, in an honest way that's

1:13.3

helpful in healing humans. Your session begins now with Dr. Anne Kelly and Sue Marriott.

1:19.3

Today, we do want to do a quick shout out for one of our partners, AG1, because they created an

1:30.4

extra special instead of just for our audience that we feel like it's worth mentioning. So,

1:35.2

Sue and I both really do drink AG1 every day. I do it right as I break my fast. It delivers a

1:41.3

blend of these core health products that feel nutrient gaps for us. So basically, it delivers

1:46.6

all the good stuff you can imagine for managing your stress, your gut health, which we talk about

1:51.2

is so important and just your overall health in general. I really noticed a difference in my

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