Today's the day, Shandies! We've been wanting to tackle the ever-relevant topic of NARCISSISM since Dear Shandy's inception, however, we insisted on waiting until we could get the best of the best to join us. Our patience paid off as today we're joined by the acclaimed, unparalleled expert on narcissism, the one and only Dr. Ramani. Trust us, she does NOT disappoint! Today Dr. Ramani sets the record straight on the definition on narcissism, how social media has changed the narcissist landscape, and how many of us fall on the narcissism spectrum. She gives us insight on how aware of their own narcissism narcissists are, whether or not they have a moral compass or can improve, and whether or not you can "win" in your battle against a narcissist. We wrap with actionable tips for those healing from their relationship with narcissists, those who have no choice but to live or work with narcissists, and what "red flags" to look out for. Our minds were blown multiple times during this conversation and this is easily one of our all-time favorite Hot Topics to date. We promise you will learn something new (and useful) to apply to your most challenging relationships. Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! More Dr. Ramani: - Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani - Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/navigatingnarcissismpod - Website & Healing Program: https://doctor-ramani.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Ramani! 2:59 - The Clinical Definition of Narcissism (So We’re All On The Same Page) 4:35 - Is There A Point On The Spectrum Where A Personality Style Becomes A Personality Disorder? 8:27 - Nature And Nurture 13:09 - How Wrong Is It To Throw The Term “Narcissist” Around? 15:41 - What Percentage Of People Fall On The Narcissism Spectrum? 17:40 - Social Media 22:56 - Can A Person Be Narcissistic In Some Ways But Not In Others? 23:58 - Can They Help It? 27:52 - When Narcissists Are Acting Out, Are They Drinking Their Own Kool-Aid? 30:25 - Do Narcissists Have A Moral Compass? 32:31 - Shame 33:54 - Can Narcissists Know They’re Narcissists? 35:06 - Has She Ever Seen Narcissists Improve? 38:59 - Is There A Correlation Between Narcissism And Enormous Wealth? 39:50 - Is There A Way To “Win” With Narcissists? 42:39 - When Dating Someone New, What Are Red Flags To Look Out For? 47:46 - Are People Raised By Narcissists More Likely To End Up In A Relationship With One? 48:47 - For People Who Have Fallen For Narcissists, What Questions Should They Ask Themselves? 51:45 - What Do Narcissists Truly Want In A Partner? 54:53 - Navigating Narcissism In The Workplace 58:04 - When Your Colleagues Are Drinking The Narcisisst’s Kool-Aid, Can You Make Them See The Light? 1:01:52 - The Basic Rules For Handling A Narcissist 1:04:51 - How Can One Tell If *They* Are A Narcissist? 1:06:21 - Are There Benevolent Narcisissts? 1:09:22 - First Steps Victims Of Narcissists Should Take Towards Healing 1:12:34 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations