Welcome to Conversations with Dr. Jennifer, a collection of interviews on the topics of relationships, sexuality, and more, all

featuring Dr. Finlason-Fife.

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We hope to see you there. This is Shirey Phelps and in this interview I talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlay's

and about how to create more meaning, purpose, and happiness in your life through navigating that

midlife crisis that seems to be unavoidable.

Is the midlife crisis just some unfavorable thing that's going to happen to us regardless?

Like why do you think it is that it's so common for people in their 40s and their 50s to

fill that emptiness that lack of purpose like I'm kind of curious if it's

developmentally something's going on that just happens when you're you know at

that stage in your life right yeah there's good those are all good questions. I think first of all, there's only a small percentage of people that actually have like the midlife crisis.

I mean, there's some research that suggests like,

you know, 10 to 20% of people have a full on,

you know, the kind of stereotypical going and buying a Corvette, you know the kind of stereotypical going and buying a Corvette you know yeah having an affair

that kind of thing where there there's this deep anxiety about life I think what's happening often is this fear of death, a recognition

of a loss of the youth, their youth and possibility. And some people, you know, just to kind of address that

stereotype, I think try to go back, try to go back to that time, try to create something that was, and that seldom goes well because you can't go back. You have to go forward only. And so, you know, just some people are living in the past, don't ever leave, keep over parenting their children, you know, over involved, that's one version of it.

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