Narcissists Are Mean: Understanding Why
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Lisa A. Romano
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🗓️ 16 February 2024
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
Narcissists tend to be incredibly mean, vindictive, and vengeful. Understanding why can help better navigate these difficult relationships with people with high-conflict personalities. Narcissists can be mean because, deep down, they struggle with an intense need for admiration and validation. Their behavior is often driven by fragile self-esteem, and they may lash out to protect their perceived superiority or deflect attention from their insecurities. The need for control and a lack of genuine empathy contribute to their mean-spirited actions, as they prioritize their own desires and disregard the feelings of others.
While it may seem like they are confident and self-assured, their meanness often stems from a fragile sense of self that requires constant validation from others, leading to manipulative and hurtful behaviors. When a narcissist feels challenged, they lash out needing to regain power in the relationship. Tune in and listen to Lisa A. Romano help you better understand why narcissists are so mean.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast. |
| 0:06.0 | My name is Lisa A. Romano. |
| 0:08.0 | I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse. |
| 0:16.0 | I am a believer in the power of an organized mind. |
| 0:20.0 | My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness, rather |
| 0:25.8 | than living a reactive life. |
| 0:28.3 | May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope, as you |
| 0:33.5 | spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast. |
| 0:39.6 | So today, we're going to be discussing why narcissists are so mean and see if we can unravel |
| 0:45.2 | what that means. When we're thinking about relationships, we have to understand a couple of basic |
| 0:50.6 | ideas in that if you're in a healthy relationship, your partner has goodwill for you. |
| 0:56.4 | Your partner sees you as someone who is flawed and that's okay. In other words, we all have |
| 1:03.4 | our deal breakers. I have mine. I know what I will tolerate and what I will not tolerate in a |
| 1:08.7 | relationship. I also know what I deserve and what I don't tolerate in a relationship. I also know what I deserve and what I don't |
| 1:13.2 | deserve in a relationship. So after almost 57 years of life on this planet, I finally figured |
| 1:19.7 | out and started to figure out about 40 to 45 years old what was healthy and what was unhealthy |
| 1:26.3 | and really got clear about my value and my worth as a |
| 1:30.9 | human being. But I also understood that I was not perfect. In fact, I was very flawed. And part of my |
| 1:39.0 | self-actualization process, and I think it's the same for all of us, is learning to accept that we're not perfect. |
| 1:45.4 | The ability to recognize yourself as flawed and imperfect is really a gift. |
| 1:50.5 | As long as you're not going down a rabbit hole because you're not perfect. |
| 1:53.2 | Like you really understand that this is a process of evolution and you're unfolding, |
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