Narcissistic Trauma Versus Narcissistic Abuse

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 8 June 2021

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, we will talk about the difference between narcissistic abuse and narcissistic trauma. We will analyse and understand the origin of the trauma produced by narcissistic abuse, why narcissistic behaviour triggers memories of past events in our lives, and how we can reclaim our power.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Why we choose to stay in abusive relationships

- The differences between narcissistic abuse and narcissistic trauma

- The role of our interpretation of past events during our childhood in how we feel today

- How separating abuse from trauma can help us take our power back

When we are abused by a narcissist, our response to abuse is related to our childhood wounds, and it is crucial that we work on healing them. Once we recover our younger self, even though we can't change a narcissist, we can change our interpretation of their behaviour.

Resources:

- Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse

- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/

- My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic abuse recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Stawson and I'll be sharing with you
0:09.2	awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.
0:16.8	I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are now and I believe you.
0:21.4	And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.
0:30.2	In today's episode, I want to talk to you about narcissistic abuse versus narcissistic trauma.
0:41.2	Because we see online a lot and myself included particularly when I first started out in this work that we talk a lot about narcissistic abuse
0:46.9	because ultimately the narcissist is the perpetrator and they abuse you and that abuse is perpetrated to you, but actually never because of you.
0:59.5	And when we start to talk about narcissistic abuse, it actually elicits a physical reaction in your
1:05.7	body. Because let's face it, the thought of you being abused by a parent, a partner, a friend, a co-worker,
1:14.0	leaves you feeling pretty low and at rock bottom. All of those phrases, sadly that I said to myself,
1:20.8	how could I be so stupid? Why did I let that happen to me? Do I deserve that? Is it me? Is it my
1:26.2	fault that all of this is happening to me? And my deep
1:29.6	subconscious belief around all of that was really genuinely about the fact that I thought I deserved
1:35.3	that. I thought it was my fault. And then when I came out of my marriage with my ex-husband,
1:41.3	I was so angry, angry at him for a period of time, and then really, really
1:46.9	angry at myself. How could I let something like that happen to me? Was I really that stupid to find
1:53.7	myself in a situation? And not only in those moments when I realized something was wrong,
1:59.5	but I actually stayed. And I didn't just stay for a
2:03.0	month or two months. I stayed for years. And in fact, in my situation, it wasn't even me that
2:10.7	ended the marriage. It was my ex-husband because I was that much in a freeze trauma response.
2:17.3	My perception of staying in an abusive
2:20.1	relationship actually felt safer than leaving the relationship. And I know many of you can relate to
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