Grief After Narcissistic Abuse

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 15 June 2021

⏱️ 23 minutes

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Summary

Today, we will talk about the grief after narcissistic abuse, and the feeling of loss we experience after losing our parent-child connection, our home, or the family we envisioned having. We will discuss every stage we go through after the divorce, and how each one leads to the other. I'll share what I experienced after my divorce, and what I did to change how I responded to my ex-husband after the separation.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Why we grieve after separating from a narcissist

- The stages we go through after a separation

- How we can find peace after accepting what we have been through

- What to do when we feel a sense of loss deep in our bones

When we think about healing from narcissistic abuse, it's not only about changing our thoughts. It is also about changing our body, about finding a sense of integration, and understanding that what happened, happened to us and not because of us, and that now we are safe.

Resources:

- Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse

- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/

- My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic abuse recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Stawson and I'll be sharing with you
0:09.2	awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.
0:16.8	I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are now and I believe you. And this show is all
0:22.7	about taking you from trauma to transformation. I want to talk to you about grief after narcissistic
0:35.2	abuse. And it's something that I think it isn't talked about enough,
0:39.5	to be honest, because I think so many of us associate grief with if someone dies close to us.
0:45.6	But grief is a huge factor when we are healing from narcissistic abuse. And when I talk about grief,
0:52.9	it's that loss, you know, that loss of maybe the
0:57.3	parent-child relationship you wish you could have had, the loss of that childhood. Maybe it's the
1:03.8	loss of the family life you really, really thought and hoped that you would have. So when we talk about grief,
1:12.6	maybe insert the word loss instead, because it's something that I certainly found really,
1:19.6	really challenging to deal with when I went through my divorce, this sense of loss that I kept
1:25.8	feeling. Now, we do talk about the grieving cycle that when you
1:29.7	break up with somebody, when you go through a divorce, when you actually lose a loved one,
1:35.1	you do go through this grieving cycle. So initially you go into that denial stage,
1:41.2	then you go into that anger, feeling really angry. Certainly I went through that stage,
1:45.1	angry at the other person and then anger at yourself. How could I be so stupid? How could I do all of that?
1:51.0	Then you go into that negotiation stage. Could I have done this? What if I had have done that?
1:56.2	Would the result have been any different? Then the depression stage. Now, when I talk about depression
2:01.6	and feeling depressed, it is a normal part of our grieving process to feel sad, to feel depressed.
2:07.7	But it doesn't necessarily mean we have depression. It is a normal cycle of that. And then probably
2:14.7	the hardest bit to go into in the grieving cycle is acceptance.
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