Welcome to Nobody Told Me.

And I'm Laura Owens.

A lot of people see themselves as introverts.

They stay silent in meetings, eat lunch alone, never brag about themselves, speak

softly, and wait to be approached in social situations.

Our guest, business communication coach Nancy Ankowitz, describes herself as an introvert

and specializes in helping introverts excel in an extroverts world.

Nancy is the author of the book Self Promotion for Introverts, the Quiet Guide to Getting

Ahead.

Nancy, thank you so much for joining us today.

How do you define an introvert?

You're an introvert if you tend to think before you speak. You're an introvert if you tend to think before you speak.

You're an introvert if you prefer one-on-one interactions to big group events, like working the room at a cocktail party.

You're an introvert if you tend to be more reflective and you tend to do your best thinking alone,

and you're attracted to activities like reading, like writing, like researching,

doing math calculations, not that all introverts are mathematical, not at all,

but those activities that I like to compare introverts and extroverts to, an introvert would be more of a deep sea diver to an extrovert snorkeler.

So to give you an idea, and it's really where you draw your energy.

And based on the earlier work of Carl Young and then years later the Myers-Briggs type

indicator, the most popular personality assessment, it's really, so so much has been done,

so much has been written, but in common terms, in everyday terms, it's just more than half the time, where do you

draw your energy? Is it more from the self-reflection, from the one-on-one activities or the

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