Brought to you by the Every Dollar app. Start budgeting for free today. My wife and I praise God just paid off, you know, all of our debt over $150,000 worth of debt. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Awesome. And yeah, it feels really good. We did it in a couple years' time. So that feels good. We're freshly married. You know, we got on board paying off debt even before the wedding,

and just so we were on the same page, you know, even during dating. So we've been doing everything

right, trying to follow the baby steps. Now we're ready to replenish our emergency fund and baby step

number two. The problem is, is my wife kind of just dropped this bomb on me today that she is

with or without my permission

going to get her parents a used car and with or without your permission please tell me how

that was said well so here's the thing it's with or without my permission because she, she up front paid a lot of, you know, my student loans off and we ended up paying a bulk of it off together. Okay. And, and so, but, you know, I know, you owe her. You owe her is what she's saying. Uh-oh. As the great Warren G once said, hold up.

Like y'all paid off y'all's student loan debt.

That's how I see it.

I see that it's like, you know, we already have a combined, you know, checking, combined savings,

combined high-yield savings account.

We have combined everything finances.

And so I don't have a problem with her wanting to do something nice for her parents.

I love them and I want to do that for them too.

But the thing I have hold up on is the precedent that's set of, hey, whether you are on board

for this or not, this is on my heart and I'm going to do it, you know, no matter what.

All right.

So let me flip this around

real quick. Are you a person who can hear that conversation from her and honor it and figure out

ways to connect with her on it? What do you mean by that? Meaning sometimes we make bold statements like that, like I'm going with or without you,

because the person we've been trying to communicate with is stuck in concrete.

And so anytime somebody says something that just sounds out of character or it just sounds wild,

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