My Wife ‘Came Out’ This Month After 24 Years of Marriage... She has RUINED My Life

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🗓️ 3 September 2025

⏱️ 21 minutes

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0:00.0	My wife came out this month after 24 years of marriage. She has ruined my life.
0:07.5	My wife came out. She saw it fitting with being June and all. Her dad had recently passed away.
0:13.7	He was infamously homophobic, so much so that he disowned my wife's brother just for being gay.
0:19.5	We've been together for 24 years. We started
0:22.4	dating at 20 and married at 25. We're now 44 and 43. We had a family, three children from 16 to 10 now.
0:30.6	Their lives are about to be torn apart thanks to a divorce. As I said, we started dating when I was 19
0:36.4	and she was 20. I gave her my entire youth.
0:39.3	While my friends were out partying with other women and experiencing their early 20s,
0:44.3	I was in with my girlfriend.
0:46.3	While my friends had finally made it out of college and started working and living alone with expendable income,
0:51.3	I was married.
0:52.3	When my friends were in their late 20s and early 30s,
0:55.5	I was with my wife and our baby. All of this was worth it, however. I loved my wife and was
1:00.9	willing to give up those things to be with her. The sacrifice was worth it. She didn't, though.
1:07.0	What I thought was two decades of bliss was agony for her. Forcing herself to be okay with being in bed with me.
1:14.1	We only made love once or twice every few weeks.
1:17.1	I drove myself crazy trying to figure out what I was doing wrong.
1:20.5	It's just that she didn't want me.
1:23.2	I'm mad.
1:24.1	I'm furious with her and hateful toward her.
1:27.1	I get it, she was so far into this lie that
1:29.6	it was difficult to find a way out. However, she still lied. She lied to me for nearly a quarter of a
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