How do I come to terms knowing that some of my desires for intimacy are unlikely to be met with my wife?

To what degree is she willing to say, okay, here's the world that must be true for that to happen,

versus that will never happen.

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Oh, just appreciate the opportunity to speak with you and taking the time to, yeah, chat with me a little bit, listening for a long time, and I appreciate all you've done to help people out.

I appreciate that, man. Thank you so much. What's going on with you, man?

Yeah, well, my question really is

about just how do I come to terms knowing that some of my desires for intimacy are unlikely

to be met with my wife desires for intimacy talking about your sex live okay so

paint me a picture of that. Yep. Well,

we've been married 17 years. We've got two kids. We're both in our mid to late 40s. And,

you know, there's just things that haven't been a part of our sex life really throughout our entire relationship.

And, you know, a lot of things kind of over time have gotten in the way of that, whether

it be, you know, we had kids very early on in our marriage and didn't have a lot of time just the two of us.

And we're both busy people and, you know, time is a challenge when you've got two teenagers and all those

sort of things. And so got to a point last summer where we had a really honest conversation.

I shared, you know, kind of some things that I was really missing in that area. And she was

honest about how she felt about some of those things. And so kind of just

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