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Hi, guys. So I basically just lack boundaries and the ability to keep my boundaries,

and that's got my marriage to a place where my husband's a bit spoiled and I can't get him unspoiled.

So we, we, I love the self-awareness and honesty here. Yeah, it's like, I can't drive and

my car is in a ditch. All right. So what, uh, what, what do you struggle with boundaries? What kind

of boundaries do you struggle with? Um, I would say probably the most major thing is I am a huge people pleaser and I don't like

to I guess annoy people or bother them.

So instead of doing that, I kind of just take everything on myself. Who told you? Hold on. Who told you?

Either explicitly or implicitly.

Who told you that you're a burden?

Somewhere along the way, you picked up the message that the world would be better if you just stayed in the shadows.

Who told you that?

I would say it would partly be maybe like a lack of self-confidence mixed with bad previous abusive

relationships.

Okay.

But that lack of self-confidence comes from someone, something.

You don't just wake up with the lack of self-confidence.

That's something that's earned over time.

That's true.

And I guess I couldn't necessarily pinpoint.

I don't recall ever not being like this.

Did you grow up in a house where an adult said,

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