We close out the week with another question on marital intimacy.

This question is even more frank than yesterday.

So obviously it is intended for mature audiences only.

Steve, a listener writes in with a common question that we get in the inbox pretty regularly

Pastor John.

He writes this, hello Pastor John.

In episode number 475 you talked about sexual attraction and argued that it is not essential

for marriage.

I am married to a gracious woman who will gladly oblige me if I ask her.

But I find that though I do need sex, I do not desire it when I know she obliges without

any sexual desire for me.

If I sense she is getting no enjoyment out of the act, it makes it feel utterly disgusting

to me.

What advice would you have for me?

My heart aches for Steve when I hear this.

I know exactly what he means.

And I think it is normal and healthy.

Maybe with the exception of when he said I feel disgust at that moment.

I am going to come back to that and caution him.

But I do agree God made sexual relations to be profoundly mutual in marriage.

Each gives, each receives, each feels the act as the consummation of a wider and deeper

spiritual and personal union for which sex is only one of the capstones.

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