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Is Sexual Pleasure Essential for Marriage?

Ask Pastor John

Desiring God

Christianity, Pastor, John Piper, Theology, Ask, Religion & Spirituality/christianity, Desiring God, 163859, Religion & Spirituality, Questions

4.94.1K Ratings

🗓️ 22 January 2015

⏱️ 7 minutes

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Summary

Sex and its pleasures may not be absolutely essential in a marriage, but we inevitably lose part of the pointer of Christ and his church when sexual intimacy is absent.

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Ask Pastor John Podcast.

0:07.0

We close out the week with two important questions we commonly receive on the topic of

0:11.0

Miracle Intimacy, and they are of course intended for a mature audience.

0:17.1

The first question comes from Kyle in Kansas City.

0:20.1

He has a follow-up question.

0:21.1

Dear Pastor John, my question is the follow-up to episode number 475.

0:25.3

Is sexual attraction essential for marriage?

0:28.2

There you said no.

0:29.9

So if sexual attraction is not essential to marriage, why does it seem so essential

0:33.9

to the song of Solomon?

0:35.8

Is sure wouldn't be much of a song if you took out everything in it that has to do with

0:40.0

physical pleasure now, would it?

0:42.0

That's John, what do you have to say to Kyle from Kansas City.

0:46.4

So let's clarify the question I was answering.

0:49.4

I mean, that's true.

0:50.4

Yeah, all right.

0:51.4

Good question.

0:52.4

Let's clarify what I was answering.

0:55.8

The question I was answering was not is sexual essential, but is sexual attraction essential

1:01.8

for marriage?

1:03.1

I answered no for cultural reason and physical reasons, culturally and historically.

1:08.6

Lots of true marriages have been put together by parents without the physical desire being

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