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My husband and I are newly married, about six months. We were both previously married. I was married for 26 years, and he was married for seven.

And both of us through our relationships um it's like a we

both had financial infidelity by our partners so i found out that my ex-husband had been lying to me

about money for well over 15 years and and then his ex-wife, she left him and then tried.

He's a farmer, so that they have a large farm, and she tried to take the whole farm.

So there's been a lot of infidelity there on the financial side.

So both of us have these deep fears of combining finances from, you know, previous relationship.

Sure.

We don't, we don't know how to handle moving forward financially together, biblically speaking.

What do you mean biblically speaking?

Well, I know from listening to your guys' podcast, you say the two shall become

one and that includes finances. And there is just a lot of fear there with combining and afraid

that you're going to get what you got before and that you're going to find out, oh my gosh,

this person who I was supposed to be able to trust was lying to me. And then his side of the

fence is, well, if I opened up to her and I tell her what's actually going on with finances,

she's going to mess me over and take me to the cleaners again. Yeah. Okay, I get what you're saying.

Here's what I would say right out of the gate. I actually think if I were in your shoes and I understand the trust issues, so what's going

all with both of you is very natural. It's very normal. I think you guys got to get with a therapist

without question and work through this. But I would tell you that just practically speaking,

I think that the fact that you have your finances merged and shared actually creates greater

accountability for both, right, so that the trust at least has some type of transparency.

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