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Try and win 11 Mary. Welcome to the program.

Hey, Dr. Laura, how are you?

Good. What can I do for you?

Well, I am trying to talk my husband on a full edge and it has to be the sister.

His nephew is attending university here in the state that we live and my sister and my auntie and family moved to another state.

So we thought that it would be a good idea for us to be able to continue to foster the relationship that we have with our nephew and bring him to the house and spend time with him and we play face 10 with him. He they team mind you.

We have a summer 17 and they're really close. They're really tight. But we play face 10 with them. We'll play scatigories and my daughter 21 and like we all get together. We'll have barbecues to cook for him. He loves my cooking.

I thought it would be a good idea that we have him every weekend or every other weekend is what it's turning out to be.

And my husband kind of noticed and this one day, you know, he and I were doing our date night here because yes, ma'am, I am his girlfriend. And we'll have my drink night and he goes, do you think that my sister is rude?

And I asked him, I was like, clarify because I'm drinking, but he goes, she has not said thank you to us on any level. She hasn't texted me. Did she text you to tell you thank you for nourishing her child for being the maternal spirit here and just spending time with him. And I said, no, I haven't had some.

He goes, the next time I talk to her, I'm going to ask her if she's spoken to you and let her know that she probably should thank you for just being that extra connected tissue sort of speak in the family because he's at university by himself.

And he has no family goes to visit him. No one goes to pick him up. His parents, like I said, they're all in another state would be able to kids. So we just try to keep him plugged in and family.

Okay, don't go back into everything you're doing. You were going toward a question, stay in that direction. Okay.

The answer to your question, no, no, no, I got the question. No, the answer to your question is yes. But he shouldn't say it with hostility.

Oh, God, your sweetness, sweetness, because what he's doing is taking care of you. The mindset he has to have when he makes that call is, hey, my wife does all this cooking and stuff.

You know, it would be nice if you made a call and said, yeah, appreciate that. Thank you. If he does anything other than that, there's going to be a family war.

Yes. Oh, yeah. So if he wants to do it, he has to do it my way, not the way he's probably percolating. Number two, the kid is grateful. The mother is guilt ridden.

Do you know, I talked to my daughter about this this morning and she said, you know, deeply probably feels very guilty and there might be a competitive spirit there because they're coming down to get.

Oh, wow. Wow.

Wow.

And truth is, Dr. Laura, I probably don't know what you're going to say right now. It doesn't matter. Don't bother saying it.

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