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Try and 11. Nicole, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. Thank you for taking me call. You're welcome. I am married. I have for kids. My question to you today is regarding my full

schedule. Can you all send my oldest son out of appreciate your advice on how I should handle the issue. So I've received a call earlier from the assistant principal at a high school freshman

and school. And apparently he was a group of about three other boys and his grade in the cafeteria and they decided to go over and

get the principal's watch on the camera. And they went over to two boys. We're kind of all in the cafeteria by themselves playing video games, you know, not causing any trouble or anything.

They went over and started poking at them and intimidating them, you know, getting in their face, putting their phones in their face, you know, I guess, you know, basically just picking on them.

Now, the principal says that my son wasn't necessarily one of the more of the aggressors. He was more kind of going along with it with the group.

And so I still haven't been equally as bad as them, even if he wasn't the one actively doing as much of the aggressive kind of things with the other boys.

But I'm just really obsessed with this behavior. And frankly, it's not the first time that he has chosen to be spending time with a group of boys who are just not doing the right thing and not, you know, not there to be more serious and involved in their school, but just wanted to get it to, you know, get into trust.

What is he, what is he particularly good at?

He really likes like online learning about online businesses and reading charts. He's kind of more introverted at home. He likes to read up on how to be an entrepreneur and how to start businesses and, you know, marketing.

So he has his own interest that I'm more of.

That's what no, I didn't ask you what he was interested in, ma'am.

I asked you what he's good at.

I mean, he's good at learning things very quickly that he's interested in. He's not good at boards in particular.

He good at he's not interested in sports. Does he play chess? Is he in martial arts? Is he in theater? Is he?

He wanted anything. Don't tell me what he likes. Tell me what he's actually doing that he's good at.

I have no idea what he's exactly good at for.

That's the problem.

Some kids are good at things at five. Okay, so his age is not relevant here. He's hanging around with those kind of kids because he's not good at anything.

And being with the tough guys makes him feel more important, better.

So we have to focus in on two things. One, I want you to put him in martial arts immediately. I don't care whether he wants to or not.

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