Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. Okay I made a

relationship quiz just for you.

Actually, it wasn't just me an ex-girlfriend and I, we made this years ago,

and I think it's a good way to put a quick black light over your relationship.

That sounds a little dramatic.

Maybe a strainer with big holes, not a tight strainer, just kind of a

strainer where like beans won't fall out of. Okay here we go. Now you don't have to get a pen or paper or anything. I mean if it's near you you can but chances are you're probably going to the bathroom or driving.

I don't know what you do when you listen to episodes of my podcast.

Okay, relationships, here we go.

I'm going to ask you a question and I want you to rate them one to five.

The first question is under safety.

Are there things your partner says or does that injure your spirit.

Number one, my partner opens up my chest and shoots arrows into the core of my being.

Or on the other extreme number five, even when things are not perfect, I still feel

fundamentally safe and loved. So in your mind, what would that be?

1, 2, 3, 4, or 5.

Question 2, by the way, there's 20 questions.

Question 2 needs, your part,

are you in touch with your emotional needs and think enough of yourself to actually express them?

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