My Own Mother Abused Me — Then I Married a Man Who Did the Same Thing | Rashida Inez

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🗓️ 17 May 2026

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Rashida Inez grew up without her father and endured sexual abuse at the hands of her own mother. In this episode of Locked In with Ian Bick, Rashida shares how she believed marriage would be her escape — only to find herself trapped in a violent and abusive relationship with a soldier that lasted for years. She opens up about the cycle of abuse that defined her life, why victims can't simply walk away, the emotional and psychological toll it takes on every part of your life, and how she finally found the strength to survive and rebuild. _____________________________________________ #DomesticViolence #SurvivorStory #TrueCrime _____________________________________________ Connect with Rashida Inez: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rashidainez?_r=1&_t=ZT-95oCy7NsKej Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1DhRyS2jdV/?mibextid=wwXIfr Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealrashidainez?igsh=MTJrMHBvYzU2emU5OQ== Youtube: https://youtube.com/@rashidainez5272?si=kWbGYP0E__rrQNQh X (Twitter): https://x.com/therashidainez?s=21 _____________________________________________ Hosted, Executive Produced & Edited By Ian Bick: https://www.instagram.com/ian_bick/?hl=en https://ianbick.com/ _____________________________________________ Shop Locked In Merch: http://www.ianbick.com/shop _____________________________________________ Timestamps: 00:00 From Abuse Survivor to Starting Over — Rashida's Story 00:17 Growing Up in Phoenix City — Where It All Began 01:48 A Childhood Without Parents — The Absence That Shaped Everything 03:58 The Complicated Relationship With Her Biological Father 07:21 A Toxic Mother Daughter Relationship That Left Deep Scars 10:37 A Lonely and Traumatic Childhood Nobody Knew About 13:00 The Moment the Abuse Was Revealed — And What Happened Next 19:59 The Teenage Years — When the Anger Finally Came Out 22:04 The Dreams She Had and the Barriers That Destroyed Them 24:23 Why She Got Married — And What She Was Really Running From 26:09 The Cycle of Domestic Abuse She Couldn't Escape 29:49 The Breaking Point — What Her Children Witnessed 33:53 The Moment She Started Healing and What Forgiveness Really Looks Like 39:02 The Warning Signs She Missed — And What She Wants You to Know 41:09 Why Abuse Victims Stay — The Truth Nobody Talks About 45:26 How the Military Helped Her Finally Start Over 53:00 Homeless and Rebuilding From Absolute Zero 55:58 The Second Marriage That Finally Gave Her Strength 58:12 Finding Her Voice Through Entrepreneurship and Social Media 59:51 How She Now Helps Other Survivors Find Their Way Out 01:01:28 What She Would Tell Her Younger Self — And Final Thoughts _____________________________________________ To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/LockedInWithIanBicka Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	My guest today grew up being abused by her own mother, and when she finally escaped, she married a man who did the same thing.
0:06.6	Her name is Rashida Inez, and this is her story of survival.
0:14.9	Where'd you grow up?
0:17.2	Phoenix City, Alabama.
0:19.6	What was that like?
0:22.7	I grew up in my hood was called Ten Top City, and it got that name because all of the people
0:29.7	in our particular neighborhood had ten roofs.
0:32.5	It was very low-income, low-income type of neighborhood.
0:36.9	I love it. It taught me how to survive. It taught me how to mind my
0:41.8	business. But to ask me what it was like, it was full of drive-bys. I remember it got so bad that
0:48.6	they were doing drive-bives during the daytime. And I remember one time walking from my bus stop
0:53.4	because my bus stop was one street over.
0:55.9	And I remember having to hide behind a park car on the road because they were doing drive-bys.
1:01.2	It was heavy with narcotics, street pharmaceuticals. But it was a thing where we looked out for each other.
1:12.2	I never felt unsafe playing outside.
1:14.5	Matter of fact, I was forced to play outside because in the South, we don't really let our children stay in the house and play games all day.
1:20.2	You had to be outside.
1:21.3	So my grandma would always make me go outside, but everyone looked out for the kids.
1:26.5	So I did have a childhood as it concerns playing with other children.
1:32.1	But Phoenix City, Alabama is the reason, one of the many reasons I am who I am today.
1:40.4	So to me, I grew up in not the best place in the world, but I grew up in a very blessed place in the world.
1:47.0	Who raised you? Was it your grandmother or were your parents in the picture?
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