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This month on Awesome Marriage, we've been talking all about myths that many of us believe

about marriage and we've kind of been debunking them.

So today we're going to be talking about the myth.

My loyalty should be with my family of origin because they raised me.

So it should be with my family as opposed to my spouse.

To kick things off,

why is this a myth, Dr. Cam? Why is it bad for our marriage to put our extended family above our spouse?

Sure. Well, one of the things that if they've been around us to marriage anytime at all, we talk about God first, spouse second, over and over and over and so then it doesn't say God first, you're a family of origin second and then your spouse.

I think in God's order, the way he designed marriage, the way we know he looks at marriage

and where he puts it in importance.

So it is him first.

And then it's our spouse second and then family, whatever would come after that.

So the first thing, reason it's a myth is it just didn't

make sense in God's order at all. Yeah, that's good. Yeah, I agree. And too, I think it just doesn't

make sense in your house order too, right? So it's like if you're living with your spouse, you're

potentially raising kids with your spouse, you're making all your life decisions with your spouse.

But if you're throwing your extended family in there, it just doesn't make sense.

Like, you know, who do you want to make happy, the one who you go to bed with at night?

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