My Husband Won’t Touch Me: 10 Years of No Sex
Almost Adulting with Violet Benson
Violet Benson
4.8 • 4.1K Ratings
🗓️ 13 December 2024
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
Ever felt like fear was running the show? In today's episode, I start by sharing my personal journey of how I went from eating lunch alone in the school bathroom to overcoming social anxiety. This pep talk is exactly what you needed to hear at this exact moment. You're welcome.
Then, I answer calls from YOU my besties!!! We discuss:
- Is he the one or are you settling? Learn how to identify patterns and know when to walk away.
- Recovering after betrayal/cheating: What I learned from being cheated on, and what NOT to do in your next relationship.
- A decade without sex—should she stay or go? I give therapy advice on what language to use to reignite her connection or to find the closure she needs.
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| 0:00.0 | I used to have social anxiety specifically when I first moved to the U.S. to start ninth grade. |
| 0:05.8 | I barely spoke in English and I had a pretty thick accent. |
| 0:09.7 | So after a few months of eating my lunch by myself in the bathroom, I decided to finally just |
| 0:14.4 | get over my fears by just experiencing them. |
| 0:17.7 | So I started coming up to people in school to try to make friends. |
| 0:20.7 | I started inviting myself to things without waiting to be asked and started coming up to people in school to try to make friends. I start inviting |
| 0:21.4 | myself to things without waiting to be asked and even showing up to parties by myself. I literally |
| 0:26.3 | did that all of high school. Trust me, I got my fair share of bullying. I got rejected, laughed at |
| 0:31.7 | awkward looks, but it never stopped me because I had a goal. Instead, it just showed me how strong I can actually be. It also |
| 0:38.9 | allowed me to study the very same people who tried knocking me down. I got to learn how the things |
| 0:44.2 | that they hated about me were just things that they hated about themselves, how the cruelest people |
| 0:49.3 | were actually the most insecure ones. And slowly but surely, after enough punches, it starts to hurt |
| 0:55.7 | less and less until it just doesn't. You wise up, you toughen up, and eventually you learn |
| 1:03.6 | that nothing can really hurt you without your permission and that no one, no one, can take your |
| 1:10.1 | power away from you unless you choose to give it to them. |
| 1:13.4 | So all of those moments that you thought you couldn't survive, and then you did just that, you |
| 1:19.2 | survived. You start to realize that it's really not that deep. More often than not, people just |
| 1:25.4 | hate themselves and project, and unfortunately, you just |
| 1:29.0 | happen to be in the crossfire. You learn that maybe it's really not personal. To constantly |
| 1:34.8 | take everything so to heart, it just so exhausting, because eventually you grow up and you learn |
| 1:41.5 | the meaning of real pain, like your first heartbreak that you will never |
| 1:45.1 | forget, losing someone you love too soon, and with each death, each loss, the pain never gets |
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