Hi guys, it's Tammy. This is part two of the episode. Make sure you head on over and listen to part

one if you haven't done so already. Enjoy. Cool. So we are known for our dilemmas. So we are going to

read a dilemma that was sent into one of our lovely listeners. Okay. This one is titled,

My husband is cheating on me and i want him to stop

even the title alone like you have to go out and type that one you want him to stop yeah

i want him to stop okay hi girls i've gone back and forth about sending this but your

podcast has made me feel seen in ways i didn't expect and i just needed to speak i recently found out that my husband has been unfaithful. It's not a rumour or suspicion anymore. It's real. But instead of feeling rage or resolve, I've mostly been left with this sinking feeling that I'm the one who failed. I keep asking myself what I've stopped doing, what I lost along the way. I cook. I keep the home. I support his goals.

But somehow I've become invisible to the man I'm married. The affection is gone.

He barely speaks to me unless necessary. And when he does, there's no warmth. I don't even feel

like a woman in my own home anymore. Just the presence he's grown used to avoiding.

Your conversations have helped me think about things differently.

Even when they hurt to hear, we've spoken openly about self-worth relationships

and what it means to be chosen, not just once, but over and over again every day.

The idea sticks...

He's a lot of it.

Stop!

That idea sticks with me because I just don't feel chosen anymore.

I'm trying to hold on to logic to reason my way through this,

but the truth is I still want him to see me again.

I still want him, I still want to feel like I matter to him and I don't know how. What can I do or undo to get his attention back without losing more of myself in the process? Thank you for staying consistent with the podcast and as funny as ever. And she said, please don't say my name as I'm pretty sure my husband is also a listener. Ah. We're going to do with you here. You will do with you. You will do with you. You will do with you. Yes. Do you have any advice? No, you guys start first. Let me. What? She asked the question, how can I make him see me or something? Yeah. I don't even think that's the question that you should be asking. I think the question you need to be asking is, is it worth still staying? Yeah. Because it sounds like he even probably knows that you know about the infidelity, but doesn't care. Yeah. And like, I don't know how to explain it, but I feel like somebody who's really remorseful, you will feel and you will know that they are remorseful. This guy doesn't care. Like even when he speaks to you, he's not speaking to you as someone who he has vowed to love until his dying breath. Like he's not. He's not chosen you anymore. Like he's done with you now. That's like what I'm getting from the way that you've

described this dilemma. And I think it's a harsh truth and reality. It's a harsh truth, but it seems to be your reality. So I feel like you need to ask yourself like if nothing changes ever, are you happy for this to be the rest of your life? Yeah. That's a very, very bad question. And I was gonna say, obviously, she's pointed it out

in terms of one thing that I will always say,

...