Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were

searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started

podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one

therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse

that's invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite podcasting

app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible and will

help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse. For those of you who follow or subscribe to this

podcast, thank you so much. Your support means so much to me. And so those of you who are struggling

with anger right now, the whole point of this episode today is if you're struggling with anger,

it may be time to embrace that a little bit. I write in a gratitude journal. I just wrote everything

that was going on. It's a melody baity exercise called How to Make a Miracle in 42 days. And you're

supposed to write all the things that you are not grateful for and you write down

like I am grateful for. So basically during when I was doing that, I was writing, I am grateful for

how angry I am. And after a while, I realized, wait a minute, how else should I feel? If I didn't

feel angry, I would be weird. If I didn't feel angry, there would be something

...