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I'm 11. Hey, welcome to the program. Good morning. How are you? Good. What can you do for you? I have a question. I'm been with my fiance for about a year and a half.

And I was here. How do I put this? How old are you? Oh, I'm 37. She's 34.

And when did her husband die? When did her husband die?

Um, 2000. There, 2020, I think. So about three years. And do you know how he passed? Um, self-inflicted.

And does she have any children by him? Two. And how old are they? Right now they are seven and nine.

So this is the first time you've listened to my show. Is this the first time you've heard my program? No, I've actually heard from her. That's all I know about you. She listens to a lot of things.

Three years ago, and she actually called in when everything happened and you gave her a really good advice. So one of the advice I'm sure was not to get with another guy.

Father committed suicide. That's very different than having a heart attack. So there's stuff going on there. And, uh, yes, okay. Anyway. So she sent you here to ask what?

Oh, no, she doesn't even know I'm calling you. Oh, okay. So God. What, what would you like?

So, um, I have, so I've been a military 18 years and I have a different parenting style. I grew up in the military and my dad is very strict on. I'm sorry. You have kids?

Yes, I have to. I have two kids. Also. How, how old are your kids?

Um, eight and 10.

Okay, I'm going to say this is calmly as I can. Yes, ma'am.

It is outrageous of you to be involved in her life at all. All time and money need to be spent on your kids who lost their family.

They don't need to spend their lives visiting you, raising somebody else's kids.

They need to see you committing to making their lives as best you can after the family got dissolved.

What you're doing is wrong and selfish. It is wrong to do this to your kids. It is wrong for her to do it to her kids.

And when you, if you were to, I'm praying that today I'll get you off this road because if you married her, you would not have any power or control. Your notion of disciplining does not matter to her with respect to her kids.

Understand that you may have been in the military. However, you have no power or control or dominance or superiority to a woman's kids, especially when their father often self.

So you would be powerless in that situation and neglecting and abandoning your own kids just for your own pleasure.

Okay.

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