My fiancé cheated on me, but lied to his mum that I was the cheater. Now the family hates me.

Many, many years ago, when I was in my early twenties, I was engaged to a guy who was, well, not the

best. He was a man-child who would refuse to talk about anything other than himself, video games and football. I had severe

self-confidence issues, and I stayed with him because I convinced myself, I was lucky to have one

person love me. I never thought anyone else would. So accordingly, we did everything he wanted and

never what I wanted. He picked the movie, where we went on date night, where we went on vacation,

among other things. At the very least, I was very close to his mother. We got along great,

so much so that we often went out together. When my boyfriend proposed, she was thrilled that I was

going to become her daughter-in-law. Unfortunately, right after we got engaged, he started

acting weird. He got super secretive about his phone and suddenly started going out multiple

nights a week to go out with the boys. Then he started canceling our plans, like date nights,

to go out with the boys. When I tried to talk to him about it, asking if he had forgotten

our plans, he yelled at me and told me I was being controlling, so I backed off. At first, I was in

denial. I told myself there was no way he'd cheat. He had proposed. He wanted to spend the rest of

his life with me. Why would someone propose and then cheat?

But eventually I broke down. While he was asleep, I got onto his phone and Facebook account,

where I found lewd messages with multiple women, undressed photos from multiple women, and worst of all,

recordings of him sleeping with other people. I was devastated. I confronted him about it, and he screamed

at me, told me I'd invaded his privacy, and it was controlling behavior like this that had made him

cheat in the first place. We broke up. He moved back in with his mother, and he made a big deal

how noble he was letting me keep our little flat. I paid for most of the deposit and

most of the rent, by the way. The moment she heard about our breakup, his mother came rushing to

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