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alissa and pennsylvania oh never mind it's courtney and iowa we had two i'm going to go with

courtney and iowa final answer uh she she asked my ex-husband and i received a large inheritance

during our marriage and set aside college money for both of our children. Now my ex is financially

strapped and has asked our youngest son for his college fund, which he didn't end up needing to fund his

education. Our son is 24 and getting married soon, and I trust he will use the money responsibly.

I can't believe my ex has put our youngest son into a terrible position. Is our son morally

obligated to give his

father this money? Short answer, I'm going to say no. There's no moral obligation. There's no

legal obligation. No. I have questions, though. I mean, my first thought is, okay, the parents

put the money aside for the kids in the 529 they list the child

as the beneficiary unless there was a discussion that was like hey if you don't use this money

it goes back to us and they change the beneficiary back to themselves or the wife or whatever

I don't know but if it's still in the son's name,

I'd be like, this is my money. Or, I mean, he's about to get married. How cool it would it be to

change the beneficiary to their kid? That's what I'm saying, yes. In a year or two or five,

or whoever. You know, I think that's, and part of this is we're enabling this ex's bad behavior for a grown man to just suddenly be

financially strapped and he to rob his kid's college fund tells me a lot about the character

of this person right because a 529 is a gift like is you gifting the gift of education to your

well the confusing part is this came from a large inheritance during their marriage that they then set aside in a college fund.

Yeah, but still, even if they had worked to save the money, you know, it would still be money that they earmarked and said this is a gift to our kids for their education.

So in many ways, it does feel like revoke, like, like turning around on a gift.

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