My Child Refuses Independent Play

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 3.8K Ratings

🗓️ 23 April 2024

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

With our most loving intentions as parents, we might find ourselves stuck in a full-time role we never wanted—as our child's playmate and entertainer. In this episode, a mom asks Janet for advice regarding her "bright, busy, extroverted four-year-old girl who loves having my complete attention.” Unfortunately, this parent is feeling she really needs some time to herself, but when she tries to take a break, her daughter is unwilling to let her go and seems anxious and insecure, as if this is a personal rejection.

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0:41.2	Hi, this is Janet Lansbury. Welcome to Unruffled. Today I'm going to be responding to a question
0:47.5	that's very similar to many that I get, and I do understand this issue because I can totally relate to the struggle of it.
0:57.0	How do we encourage our child to play independently of us? How do we separate from them to free them up to play
1:07.8	when our child seems to continually want our attention? Here's the email I received.
1:14.0	Hi Janet, thanks so much for your podcast and advice.
1:17.0	I hope it's okay to ask you about a situation I'm having with my daughter.
1:21.0	I am a stay-at-home mom to a very bright, busy,
1:24.2	extroverted four-year-old girl who loves having my complete attention. She goes to
1:29.8	school in the mornings and in the afternoons we try to stay busy with classes, walks and going to the park.
1:35.3	I try to give her as much attention as I can but I'm an introvert with ADHD and
1:41.0	I get overstimulated and irritable from constant interaction.
1:45.4	The only way I can get hurt to give me some space is if I hand her a screen and I'm growing
1:51.3	I'm comfortable with how much I've been relying on screens to keep her occupied.
1:55.6	And it doesn't always work. Sometimes she wants me to sit down and watch the show alongside her,
2:00.4	and I can only watch so much Peppa Pig. I would love to help her learn to entertain herself with toys.
2:07.0	It's not just for me, I think it would be good for her to be comfortable being by herself.
2:12.0	She seems to get anxious and takes it as well. to be comfortable being by herself.
2:12.9	She seems to get anxious and takes it as a personal rejection
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