My boyfriend won't marry me because I'm an immigrant.

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I'm a 29 year old female and I moved to the United States seven years ago as a grad student

from Indonesia.

I'm at my boyfriend who's 30 years old a few months after I moved and we've been together

ever since.

My boyfriend is a US citizen.

After I graduated we had a serious discussion about where our relationship was headed.

I made it very clear that I wanted to eventually get married and have children.

My boyfriend echoed the sentiments and I remember asking him if he saw that happening with

me because I didn't want to be in a relationship with no future.

He told me that he loved me and that we were definitely headed in that direction.

As of last week we've been dating for seven years.

We've occasionally talked about marriage but we were both busy with our respective careers

so the timing didn't seem quite right.

However, recently my company announced that there's a chance that my department's work

will be outsourced.

I'm on an H1B visa, a temporary worker visa.

So this means I need to start looking for a job ASAP if I want to continue staying

in the United States.

Last week during our anniversary I brought this up.

I asked him if he thought it was the right time to think about getting married as that

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